Let's be real for a minute.
Why are mom's so hard on themselves?!
Right now you are reading that statement either agreeing with me or going "PISH... what is she talking about?"
If you are the first.... well cheers to you fellow momma! If you're the later.... you are probably a guy - but maybe not because I don't really see any guys reading this.... except maybe my husband........ if he is bored {In that case hey babe!}.
But back to topic. Mom Guilt.
It's real.
It's ugly.
It's nonstop.
And no matter how good of a mom you are it makes you feel like a failure.
I get it.
When I was a working a mom I thought mom guilt was normal. I mean so much time away from your child you were bound to feel guilty.... right?
When I became a stay at home mom I thought all that guilt would go away. I mean I'm with my daughter literally 24/7. How in the world could I have mom guilt?!
But I do....
Some days I feel like I am rocking this mom thing.
But more often than not I feel like I am failing.
And why is that?
Because even though I am a stay at home mom my day does not fully revolve around my daughter.
There I said it.
When she was younger it did revolve around her. But it also revolved around the day to day tasks of having a farm and being a stay at home mom.... Make sure animals are fed, clean stalls, cook breakfast, clean the house, wash the dishes, do the laundry.... crap is that something sticky on the floor?! Better mop the floors!
Now it was not all "Cinderella! Cinderella!"
A lot of time was spent playing. Indoors. Outdoors. Dress Up. Board Games. Puzzles. Painting.
But being a stay at home mom comes with responsibilities to. Ones I did not imagine when I was a working mom.
Now my daughter is older. I know the days of her actually wanting me to play with her are numbered. Yet I still have responsibilities. Right now my biggest task is unpacking and trying to sort thru all the crap stuff from the move and then the remodel. When Dustin and I got married we had nothing. Fresh out of the Marines our first move was simple. But over the years we have definitely accumulated some stuff! And at the old house everything had a place and I loved it..... but at the new house I'm realizing some furniture no longer has a place.
And there are still the day to day house chores as well as the farm chores.
Which is where the mom guilt comes in. In my mind I know I should be soaking up this time with her. Don't worry about all the other stuff!
But that voice obviously knows where the cutting board is because I have yet to find it in the mountain of boxes!
Today though I said to heck with everything else. The "To Do List" I had in mind was tossed out. Maddie asked if she could make something out of her cookbook.
She made her grocery list. We went to the grocery store. And then we came home and she made monkey bread.
And because she loves Nailed It we had to film the entire thing as if we had our own cooking show. It was simple. It was fun. And it was one of the days that made me think "hey I got this."
Hang in there momma you got this to! I understand the guilt is real. And whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom you want the same thing..... your child to be happy and to know they are loved.
And if you are feeling that mom guilt... guess what? Your children knows they are loved and I'm sure they are happy.
So have a glass of wine and go easy on yourself even if it is just for one night.
I think Amy over at The Savvy Sparrow said it best so I will leave you with her words of wisdom:
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